Showing posts with label Amma. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Amma. Show all posts

Monday, May 11, 2020

Mother! An Ode to my mom! Value them when they are around!

Mother!
11 May 2020



What will I write
What all will I not write!
When she was around, I never valued her enough
As she was gone, I could not stop wanting her more
She was not the normal mothers who cuddled around
Or hug you, kiss you and suffocate you with love
Her way of expressing love was different
That I never understood as a child
I longed for her one long kiss on my cheek
Wanted to hug her and cuddle over to sleep
Waited to tell all my stories non-stop
But she was never there around for these flops
She ensured we had proper clothes,
Food on our table and books to study
She breathed her lungs out to make a living
To give us a decent life and rebuild everything
She shouted like a monster most of the times
Disciplined us like a circus ring master every time
Forget about getting her love, it was more of hate
More of anger, more of no where else to go days
Having three teenage girls to take care all alone
As the man who was the rock of the family slipped away soon
I never understood what all she would have gone through
Having to feed, having to raise and having to live alone
Today as I crave for love, so much in life, despite all comforts
I feel so sorry for her, for how much she would have needed
That one shoulder to support and lean on when she wanted
She was there, with that frail body that troubled her with wheeze
Steroids that kept her crazy and not have proper sleep
Yet, she ensured she cooked us delicious meals
Made sure that all of us had the normal lives
Her anxieties always did kill her and our peace
Marrying us off became her life’s biggest goals
And she did it without loans and with such an ease
She was a true Leo. The roaring lioness in her own way
Looking back, probably she was right in her say
At times, words ripped us like the swords around
I forgot the fights where we threw knives abound
Yet, after all the battles within the four walls
She ensured, that we were safe, we were not hungry
We were educated, we could live our lives on our own
Not sure, if my hate did turn to love, when I saw her sick
As her days were coming to close, I know I evolved
When the world shunned its doors on me, she rescued
As life ripped me apart, she stood there to strengthen my resolve
All I could give her back in gratitude was my ample time
In her last days, pampering her with my care and love
Today, I know her value, I need her more, I wish her around
Mother is a mother, no matter how different, yet always profound!
Love you Amma!
Wish I told you more of this when you were around!

Wednesday, August 7, 2019

An year after you...... will be holding onto you....today and forever...Amma!


Thinking of you!
Today and forever
Missing your loud voice around
The discipline, the care, the concern

Every time I fell down
You stood there, 
pushing me to raise again

Since you have gone
I close my eyes and 
think of what you would say
for things that I am not sure

Morning coffees are not same again
No one can match your cooking 
Be it your kesari or simple rasam
wish I wait for one other meal with you

You were a tough task master
but I guess that really worked wonders
You were strong battling asthma
and all the evils in and out as well

Upkeeping your house like you used to do
doing what socially is right as you did
managing people and finances with ease
contentment with what you had always
none of the above is easy for me today




Sunday, September 16, 2018

Enchanting Varanasi : Must do things in Varanasi, the City of Lord Shiva

The pilgrimage to Kasi, the temple town of Lord Shiva is a much renowned pilgrimage to Hindu's who believe in the Moksha by surrendering oneself to the immense power of the Ganges flowing through the City of Varanasi.    To many others, it is a tourist destination, to rediscover the rawness and meaning of being humans above anything else.   Varanasi gives you a delight of understanding the human form and its beginning, existence and the end.   In the end, what matter is taking you back to the very beginning, unison in the waters of life...thereby cleansing your soul.   

This is the sentiment of a Hindu, who takes a pilgrimage to Kasi. 

From a tourist perspective, a weekend in Kasi is worth all the efforts you spend on the trip.  If you have just 2 days, and still want to have an experience worth having, continue reading!

Reaching Varanasi

Plan to reach Varanasi early in the morning, taking an early hours flight.   Varanasi airport is 22 kms away from the city, and the only possible transport is hiring a taxi, which starts from Rs 600 and above depending on the destination.    Varanasi also has a well connect Railway station and Bus Stand from various part of India that makes the travel possible for all.

Stay in Varanasi

Varanasi is a city where you can live in free ashrams,  choultries and end number of small hotels that provide accommodation.    There are also very decent hotels and cosy places depending on your budget and preference.   Staying closer to the main area around Kasi Vishwanath temple makes your access easy.   However, if you would prefer to stay away in the nights from the humdrum of the city, you can also take hotels in the Cantonment area, a little far from the main tourist attraction.  Dolphin International, Hotel Ganges Grand, Hotel Ashoka are closer.  Radisson and other primer hotels are little away but accessible to the city.

Food & Specialties

You have loads and loads of chat places that serve varieties of North India culinary experiences with their Pooris/ Bajji along with hot Jelabi's in the morning ( We have seen this as common breakfast preferred),  followed by Chai in clay pots (muttkas) that give you a different taste to the tea, and the lip smattering Lassi (Curd based churned (Yogurt) mixed with a pinch of salt and loads of sugar,

, and topping with the Cream/ Butter or Kova (condensed milk with sugar).   We literally survived on this chilled lassi during the hot afternoons.   I also heard that they have lassi topped with Ganja(some kind of substance - ugh)..so beware when you get your glass of lassi.   

Rice, dal, Rotis, variety of dosas, samosas, poori's , potato curries and loads of Rasagulla's, Kachories, Gulab Jamun's make your lunch.   You also have best of hotels for South Indians like Hotel Annapoorna and Kerala Cafe that caters to your typical south/ north Indian cuisine.  My two cents would always go to the amazing Aloo Thikki's and Onion Kachories with the hot tea in the matkas!

Must See Places 

1.   Amazing Ganges and 80+ Ghats 

The boat ride in Ganges gives you a wide glimpse of the Varanasi skyline with its beautiful ghats and each ghat has its own significance and story.    The Ghats, we visited were Kedar Ghat, Dashashwamedh Ghat and Harischandra Ghat.    Manikarnika (site to see never ending cremations) , Hanuman, and Assi Ghats are also said to be of high significance.   Every ghat has its own temples and historical significance. 

One big change is that there is no live burning of bodies seen this time, because the Ganges was overflowing, nextly there is ban of pushing the dead bodies in the ganges which is actually making offering prayers at the Ghats was more peaceful and taking bath was also not uncomfortable

Keeping Ganges clean is not only a Government project but a responsibility of every citizen and I think the constituency being that of Modiji is actually bringing in the much awaited changes in Varanasi 

Raghu at Kedar Gath..flooding ganges behind..a km away from Harischandra Ghat
2.  Temples 

After completing the rituals on the Kedar Ghat, and taking a bath in Ganges, we headed first to

Kasi Vishwanath Temple :  One of the 12 Jothirlingas,  the amazing Lord Shiva Temple tucked inmidst of narrow lanes of Varanasi have the Golden Gopuram weighting 920 kgs and within the premises, visit the Nandi facing Lord Shiva, Banyan tree,  Lord Hanuman temple and many other small temples around.   The Vishwanath Temple of Kasi (Varanasi) is one of the oldest and most sacred Hindu temples in India. On an average the number of devotees visiting the temple each day ranges from a few thousands to about 100000 (on special occasions).

Mata Annapoorna Devi Temple:   Goddess Annapoorna is the ruling Goddess of Varanasi said to be relieving the hunger of the living beings.   The temple offers prasad and rice to the visitors and offers every day food to elderly and destitutes.  Located quite close to the Vishwanath Temple, is the Annapurna Devi temple where the Goddess Parvati is worshipped as the giver of food and nourishment. Devotees come here in hoards and donate freely.

Visalakshi Temple – The Kashi Vishalakshi temple is one of the acclaimed Shaktipith temples in the country. This traditional south Indian style temple has many miraculous stories about it and is a favourite with devotees from all over the country.  Believed to be maintained by Nattu Kotta chettiars and seems to be sending offerings to Kasi Vishwanath temple thrice a day even today.

  

Sankat Mochan Temple – The Sankat Mochan Hanuman Temple of Varanasi is said to have been established by the renowned saint Goswami Tulsidas and reconstructed by Pt. Madan Mohan Malviya in the early 20th century. The devotees who throng the temple feed the hundreds of monkeys who live here. The temple was the site of a terrorist attack in March 2006 and hence under high security now.. 

Kaal Bhairav Temple – The Kaal Bhairav temple is one of the oldest temples in Varanasi. Kaal Bhairav is believed to be the guardian of the city and is the protector of devotees in trouble.  Here we can worship the Lord to wade away evil and pain.   Feeding of prasad to dog's at the temple entrance is sight to see.  

Tulsi Manas Temple – The Birla Tulsi Manas Temple is another famous pilgrimage centre in Varanasi. It was built in 1964 and is dedicated to Lord Rama. Tulsidas’ famous Ramcharitamanas is inscribed on the walls of the temple.   The main deity here is Swami Satyanarayan and unlike other temples, this temple complex is airy and vast. 

Durga Kund Temple – The Durga Mata Temple in Durga Kund is another one of the important temples in Varanasi. It is near the Tulsi Manas Mandir. On special days a procession heads out from this temple to the Durga Temple.  The Red walls of the temple and the amazing deity makes it look powerful.   

Bharat Mata Temple – This is a unique temple dedicated to Mother India (Bharat Mata). Nowhere else a temple dedicated to the motherland. The temple was built in 1936 in the Mahatma Gandhi Kashi Vidhyapith. Gandhiji himself inaugurated the temple.   The India map built on the floor is worshiped here.  However, we felt very sad to see that this temple is not maintained well and has lowest footprints.

Tridev Temple – It is very rare that we find a Hindu temple dedicated to all three Gods of the Trinity – Brahma, Vishnu, and Shiva. Varanasi’s Tridev temple is unique in this respect and is visited by hundreds of devotees each day.

Other temples around include: 

  • New Vishwanath Temple – The New Vishwanath Temple in the campus of the Banaras Hindu University was constructed by the educationist, Madan Mohan Malaviya with the help of the Birlas. The tower of the New Vishwanath Temple is said to be the tallest temple tower in the country.
  • Mrityunjay Mahadev Temple – Shiva is known to assume many forms; one of these is that of Mrityunjaya – the one who achieves victory over Death itself. This temple dedicated to Shiva in the form of Mrityunjaya, is visited by devotees in great numbers who pray for good health and a long life.
  • Nepali Temple – The Nepali Mandir in Lalit Ghat is also known as Mini Khajuraho. The terracotta, wood, and stone Pagoda style temple was constructed by the King of Nepal, Rana Bahadur Shah, in the 1800s and is dedicated to Lord Shiva.
  • Plenty of Hanuman Temples, Ganesha Temples and Goddess Kali, Durga and Maa Ganga you can see around 

 3.  Evening Ganga Aarthi  (6.45- 7.45 pm every day at Dashashwamedh Ghat)

We were so blessed to see this Aarthi, sitting just behind the priests performing the same and Raghu had the blessing of lighting the lamp used for the ritual.   

Ganga Aarti Varanasi (Benaras, Kashi ) is  the Hindu religious ritual of worship for the holy river Ganges. The ceremony happens everyday from 6.45 -7.45 pm at Dashashwamedh Ghat on the Ganges river banks.

A must watch event while in Varanasi, and is enjoyed by locals and tourists from all over the world. Dashashwamedh Ghat is the main ghat in Varanasi on the Ganges River. It is located close to "Vishwanath Temple" and is probably the most spectacular ghat.

Two Hindu mythologies are associated with it: According to one, Lord Brahma created it to welcome Lord Shiva. According to another legend,  Lord Brahma sacrificed ten horses during Dasa -Ashwamedha yajna performed here.

Aarti is said to have descended from the Vedic concept of fire rituals, or homa. In the traditional Aarti ceremony, the flower represents the earth (solidity), the water and accompanying handkerchief correspond with the water element (liquidity), the lamp or candle represents the fire component (heat), the peacock fan conveys the precious quality of air (movement), and the yak-tail fan represents the subtle form of ether (space). The incense represents a purified state of mind, and one's "intelligence" is offered through the adherence to rules of timing and order of offerings. Thus, one's entire existence and all facets of material creation are symbolically offered to the Lord via the Aarti ceremony.The word may also refer to the traditional Hindu devotional song that is sung during the ritual.




















Our visit was to immerse my amma's ashes in the Ganges and do the rituals on the ghats of Ganges and pay our tributes as she was a keen believer in the salvation on the banks of Varanasi.   Despite her ill health and age, she managed to go to Kasi 4 times and never complained on any of the discomforts during those trips as she had challenges in walking,  eating outside food, using public toilets and staying with many other elderly travel companions on the group tours and on limited budgets.  Today, being there, I wonder how she managed it so gracefully.  

I would recommend readers here to help your parents or elder people wanting to visit Kasi, to manage logistics and if possible, accompany them and do your best.  

May the Lord Shiva grace you with his blessings!  Om Namashivaya!








 



Friday, September 7, 2018

A month after .......




A month slipped away without you
Silently taking all the tears I could shed
I hear your brave voice, asking me to raise again
This time, with your divine blessings to regain
Yes, you were behind me when I did my best
You stood ahead to protect whenever I lest
You were my true lioness often brave and wild
I know you will only be proud
When I raise again and focus on what next
Your loss is a forever pain that nothing could heal
But who can dare the lessons and memories steal
When I had you back at home, taking all the care
I could fly with wings wide and dream big to hold
Now, I need you to give me the comfort and courage
To take those steps again and arise with a new sage

Love you Amma!