Sunday, October 20, 2019

Bhagwan Ramakrishna Paramahamsar from Madras Ladies Drama Group Trust & Bombay Gnanam- A review and a thank you!

Being Theatre enthusiasts and rasikas of Madras Sabhas and Cultural events, we take every possible opportunity on weekends to make it to the drama's and kutcheries in Chennai.  Today was no different as Raghu and I decided to go to MFAC for a relaxed sunday evening theater extravaganza from Madras Ladies Drama Group founded by Bombay Gnanam akka 30 golden years ago.  The last minute decision to make it, must have been his way of calling to know more about the great 'Paramahamsa'...Lord Ramakrishna and Sarada devi and Swami Vivekananda. 



The evening opened up with the opening remarks on the play from Gnanam akka and the way she introduced the story line, the artists and the effort to bring this to the masses itself was a goosebumps beginning.  The next 2 hours was a spiritual extravaganza...the inner awakening...and a kind of enlightenment.   We have been visiting Ramakrishna Mission temple and also been part of several of their charitable works in the past and Raghu being an ardent disciple of Vivekananda...this evening made us get much closer to Sri Ramakrishnar himself.   

There were moments of tears and happiness,  a inner contentment of knowing more about the early years of the great saint and his way of invoking Goddess Kali, the moments of inner bliss and absolute divine consciousness.   It was as if these ladies were taking us deeply into the life and history of Hinduism,  Lord Ramakrishna and his life, his teachings, his way of looking at life, his absolute self of truth and inner awakening.   His immense bhakthi that is not easy for ordinary minds to understand.   His way of understanding the Goddess and his deep sense of belongingness to the Almighty in the much mightier form of Maha Maa Kali.   

At one stage, we forget that it is the lady artists who are performing the roles of every male character on stage, and thanks to the costumes and props that actually take you to the era of Ramakrishnar.  Great work from Charu, Ragini, Mohan Babu and Shymala.  I am so happy to be knowing Ragini Praveen personally as a Inner Wheel friend.   Sets from Mohan Babu transforms to real Dakisheswar and makes you long to be there at the Maa Kaali temple.   My next trip to Dakishneswar Ramakrishna Mutt and Kali Maa temple in November will be making me surely reminiscence of this evening that actually took us to Kaali temple with ease with the sets that were so powerful and realistic.   

Lights from Mano Lightings and Govind actually give the right effects to the stage and for this level of magnanimous production, lights and sound play a major role.   Kannan and Saamy with their make up marks a different level of perfection, and not until the end during the introduction of the artists that you realize that there is no male artist on the stage and thanks to the precision in the make up by these great support from Kannan and Saamy..absolutely flawless.   

Songs set to tune by Suchitra Balasubramanian makes you literally stand up in reverence at many places during the play with the selection of songs and high level of devotional music.  You literally transfer yourself from MFAC to the banks of Dakishneswar temple and thanks to Suchitra's songs...and the background score and songs produced and arranged by Divakar Subramanian makes you thank him in abundance.  Thara Srinivasan's story research,  and Kamala Eswaran's role as Production Manager adds abundant value to this spectacular show.    Associate Director Padma Ganapathy, and Production team including Mohan, Padma and Dakshin, needs a special mention

Every artist gave in their best.  Especially Varsha, with her ligment tear did not mind pushing herself to done the role of Bhagwan Ramakrishna and she gave a stellar performance.   I could not sit in my chair at the end and rose in sheer bliss to clap for all of them with absolute happiness for having attended this show today.  Thank you team for this wonderful and mesmerizing journey taking us into the life story of Bhagwan Sri Ramakrishna Paramhamsar.    Thank you so much

This is not a propaganda for Hinduism or Ramakrishna Mission...but a honest attempt to make you understand what real Hinduism is and the way of life of a Hindu and takes you into the lives of both Ramakrishna Paramahamsa and Swami Vivekananda...Last words, please spread the message for more and more people to view this wonderful play and also financial support this troupe to bring us many more shows like this.   Go and enjoy the sheer bliss of Tamil Theater in its earnest effort to showcase the great life of Bhagwan Ramakrishna Paramahamsa.   Guruvey Saranam!






Saturday, September 28, 2019

One Happyness Conversations that ended my day in tears- Huge Respect to K.S.Narendran and R.V.Rajan whose love for their respective spouses brought tears to this soul

AVIS initiatives and especially their Happyness Conversations touch me everytime I attend .....today was no different.  Infact, it was very special because it had Rotarian Rajan as one of the Guest speaker...what else I need as motivational factor to push myself to attend amidst two critically complex production cutovers at working  I have been manning from early in the day and a college talk that was pre-planned long ago and skin infection that was really skin deep in trouble today and thanks to my dermatologist friend Sneha who came to my rescue last night....medication, work pressure, social commitment and the urge to go for this conversation....what a day!

Today as we heard the conversation of two different men who adored their wives in their own way, and who lost their beloved spouses in two different ways and yet, had a strong underlying uniqueness of a strong bond and falling in loving as they grow old.

R.V. Rajan and his beloved wife Prabha Rajan

Rajan who is now 70+  had an amazing career as the Ad Man, Rural Marketing Expert, Socialite, Author, Celebrity. Round Tabler, Rotarian and many other feathers in his cap.    His beloved Prabha Rajan is known to me ever since I joined Inner Wheel in 2004...on the day she passed on 5 Jan 2013, I was in the ITIL certification process and exam, and couldnt reach her house on time to see her for one last time before her final journey....that regret ran in me for long time.  Subsequently coming to know about Rajan, he became a very important part in our lives as part of our Mutual Admiration Club....and we kept bumping into each other at many social gatherings.  Rajan and Raghu also bonded well and we had so much in common to celebrate this friendship.   Prabha from being an introvert, to a very expressive writer, and her transition from being a timid madras mammi to be the 'Nightingale of Inner Wheel Club of Madras South' her journey is an inspiration to many.

Rajan instead of mourning the loss of his beloved wife, decided to greive in a different way.. Celebrate her life and create more of Prabha Rajans in the remaining life he is gifted with after her demise...His Prabha Rajan Talent Foundation has a beautiful purpose on its own and today, he still feels that he can help women recreate the magic in their lives by becoming published authors and he encourages women writers to survive, get opportunities and chase their dreams...Hats off to you Rajan....some where deep down in me, I am discovering a father bond in you...God bless you Rajan.

K.S.Narendra and his wife Chandrika.

Ever since MH 370 disappeared from the skies on 8 March 2014, this particular tragic event baffled me like many around the world.   It was absolutely undigestable that a so called most secured passenger aircraft can just go missing   for no reason known so far from the skies and no amount of loss, anger, frustration,  pressure from the families those who lost their beloved one's could make this search continue till the whole episode found a logical conclusion.  It is very unfortunate that 3 families from India lost 5 of their beloved one's and it wasnt even a number that would be considered important for Govt of India to push for answers and it is the most unfortunate thing for the families when compared with the 150+ lives of Chinese .   As Naren, was speaking, I could feel that choke in his voice...absolutely controlled grief,  a deep anger that had no where to go, the pain that is absolutely devastating and lots and lots of questions that probably will never have answers.  Chandrika who used to be full of life disappeared along with the plane she was in.   You should watch this conversation video recorded to feel the depth of love he has on her and how tough this spouse goes through after she is gone.   Naren calls life as a gift and he has to move on.  But one thing that can never go from him, is the love for Chandrika, his grief which he learnt to live with,  the healing that is very minimal and a life ahead which is absolutely based on the flow of the daily routine, with no dreams of his beloved coming true.     I struggled to hold back my tears while hearing him.

What this conversations about 2 deaths was disturbing to me and absolutely related....

2018 was a painful year in my life..losing 2 absolutely important women in my life...my mother and my god-daughter Manasa.

My mother lived a full life,  had her own struggles and health issues,  a life full of battles of all kinds and tasting success of the daughters she raised, and her glorious last 20 years of life was filled with the joy of being a very very happy grand mother and she adored her grand children like nothing else. 
A small fall at home, that broke her arm, and subsequently restricted her movements and finally diagnosed with 70% clots in 3 of her nerves in the brain....was a painful journey...Just like Prabha, my mom struggled with the issues related to her brain problem for 7 long months and the physical pain she was suffering was unbearable and difficult for us to watch.. We could help her with supporting externally round the clock, ran to the hospital errands and stayed with her, treating her like a baby in her last few months.  At one stage, seeing her in so much of physical pain,  I prayed God to give it an end and relieve her from this earthly pain.  I prepared myself to accept her death when it happened.  I started celebrating her life.   Despite that her loss created a deep sense of vacuum and I wished to knock on her door when I return from work..   She was there to take of my home and my daughter and gave me ample space to pursue what I want and chase my dreams.  Today, I miss her support, her discipline and her unexpressed unending love in actions.  Probably this is so similar to what Rajan is going through.  The only difference is that my loss is of a parent and his loss is of his spouse of more than 40 years.    We need more Rajans in our society who don't talk on women empowerment but just be the torch bearers of the same.   God bless you Rajan

Munni (Sai Manasa)  gave us no clue that she will disappear one night , like an star into the skies.  The foster daughter who adored me like her own mother,  spent more of the last 6 years of her 19 years young life at my home as my twin-friend-soul-sister to my daughter.  Ever since she came in our lives in 2012, I stopped my regret of aishu not having a own sister and Munni just became such an integral part of our lives.  She stood with us like a soothing soul when my mom passed away in august and spent every day consoling Aishu who was raised by my mom.  The day I was starting to Canada, she really gave me headache by sleeping off in the flat and not opening the door for the roommates and make me go crazy on her.  Wish that craziness continued.  She used to love me, trouble me, pamper me, get pampered, get fed, get cajoled in my arms to sleep and literally bite my cheeks and sleep... First 15 days of my Corporate Service Corps journey in Canada went off very happily till the screaming call I received on the night of Oct 15th last year from aishu saying that Munni met with a tragic bike accident and died on spot.   I didnt know how to react, I became numb...I was on the other side of the planet...and next 24 hours was brutal...and subsequently the grief of her loss became more and more as I could not see her final journey and catch one last glimpse of her.  Today I strongly believe that I wouldn't have had the courage to bid her a final bye.  The guilt that she wouldn't have even done what she did to end up in this tragic death had I been in India ...similar to Chandrika's death where Naren had no control., we didn't have any control in the way we lost munni

Several questions remained unanswered!

1.  Why did she go on that fateful bike journey of 400 kms without telling her parents or us?
2.  Why did she trust the professor and traveled alone starting from home at 10,30 PM to reach Theni in the morning to see kurunji flowers bloom?
3.  Why did she neglect the fact that bike riding on highway in the night can be dangerous?
4.  What a stupid sense of gender-equity that professor defended himself saying he never thought the difference of a girl or a boy when she asked to venture out?
5.  Who gave Ben Philip right to take her on the ride without proper permission?
6.  Why did Ben Philip tell the NIFT management that accident happened at 5.30 am where as Post Mortem report mentioned the time of accident at 12.05 and death on spot?
7.  Did Ben Philip ensure that she had the right helmet,  jacket and other precautions to travel that far in the night?  When he was wearing all that, where did his common sense go to not ensure she is safe?
8.  How did he miss to see the sudden /or slow coming of the bullock cart and ramp his bike to the bullock cart and eventually resulting in the death of the animal on the highway?
9.  Why did our law system not punish him for his over speeding or rash driving and negligence resulting in loss of lives of both the teenage student and the animal on the road
10.  There is no justice to the suffering of pain our child went through as she got  hit to the ground and died on the road bleeding and in darkness and loneliness and later butchered in the hospital in the name of PM and investigation?
11.  No amount of police investigation or running behind advocates, could ensure that Ben Philip is punished for his negligence.  I could not pursue this case due the fact that aishu is studying in the same college. 
12.  Ben moved ahead with his life in no time, just like every other newspaper and political leaders after MH370 disappearance and so did his college, and her classmates.  What impacted was the family of manasa and us and the grief was so deep that we are still struggling to cope up
13.  A normal excursion and adventure turned into a nightmare and loss of a precious life which did not matter to any one in the system..except for the family and friends
14.  Why did Munni not even tell Aishu till the last half hour before leaving our house in OLA to that fateful bike ride?
15.  Is this Karma which united Munni with her biological mother as she longed to see her once, to be with her, despite all the efforts her dad and mother put in to raising?
16. Of all the time , why the hell I was away from India and did not see her finally to bid adieu...
17.  Road accidents happen every minute and every hour it claims 17 lives in India....and most of them are due to negligent driving.  But why Munni?   why us to this suffering?   Why do we deserve this? Is 19 a age to die this tragic death? 
18.  Is there a logical conclusion to this pain and when and how are we going to make peace with her death and move on?
19.  Will punishing Ben philip matter any more and bring her back to life?  Will it give us peace?  Will it resolve the loss?   I dont know
20.  This is the grief, we dont want to ignore but embrace, celebrate the love she shared, memories she created with 1000+ pictures she took with aishu...and despite she being our limited edition, her memory will not be of the past.  She will live with us till our last breath.... Oct 4th , her hindu thiti is going to drain us and coping up with her first anniversary on 15 oct is going to be painful...but I am sure she will not like us sulking or crying..instead she would want us to wear her pink, dance in her memory, feed the destitute children and sleep hugging the part of her remaining with us. 

This happyness conversation for sure made me end the day in tears and pain.  The takeaways of the evening are many and recalling the conversation will hopefully give us the strength to celebrate the 2 important women in our lives and move on with daily grind of routine.   Miss u mom and munni

Rest in peace Prabha and Chandrika.   Gone are the physical bodies but not your souls that are truly cherished in your spouses hearts and minds....Both Rajan and Naren are coping up this in their own way and spreading the message of love beyond death. 

Thanks to Vaani and AVIS for one another touching conversation .   God bless you both. 




Friday, September 13, 2019

How to end an extra marital affair? In Paru's way! (Short Story from Paru Tales)


It happened and it really stink.   Paru had been married for years and suddenly she found herself in a deep attraction to someone else.    A casual encounter at a social gathering, exchanging niceties on the social media, following each other’s life closely to an extent that a new friendship with a soul connection grew without even both realizing the deep bond.

One night a long conversation turned into a test-flirt the next day during a lunch break from office, that got rewarded, a touch of hand over passing a tissue and soon navigating into the depths of serious deceptions.   Paru never imagined things going this far neither planned anything nor stopped it before it reached a point where she started cheating on her spouse. 


Feelings taking hold of them due to host of reasons and few purely biological.   Catching like a common cold, slowly turning to a fatal disease.   The brain awash with an insane logic that seems to make sense, with a strong sense of awakens from an otherwise dull marriage and the feeling of inner spirits revived and ignoring the tsunamis of guilt and shame of the new-found happiness in life. 

The small attractions of wearing matching dresses, looking gorgeous on dinner dates, romantic feelings arising while watching movies and the stars romancing on screen, slowly trying to hold fingers tightly and brushing across each other’s shoulders in response to the onscreen romance and then trying to place small and tender warm kisses in the car park before leaving the multiplex.   Paru and Raj found a spark which was missing in their lives and her decade old marriage. 

Paru was getting drawn to the developing attraction of Raj and the romantic feelings for him other than his spouse happened normally, naturally.   Paru was aware that it is harmful and can be incredibly destructive to the fabric of her family and people who care about her.  Raj was showing her the love that she never felt before.   Paru started lying. Lying, hiding and manipulating almost every single day.   She started spending every possible moment with Raj and obsessing about the next time she can be with him. 

Almost after 3 years of managing to hide and seek with her amusements outside marriage, her husband one day saw a message from Raj that could possibly damage her marriage forever.  She knew she did not get into it on purpose, but she was forced to think of how to get out of it, on purpose to save her marriage and social status.

Struggling with the strong feelings for Raj, and not having the courage to end her marriage, she started working hard in paying attention to the needs to save her marriage.  She tried to ignite the spark in her marriage by dressing up for her husband and asking for candle lit dinners.   He found it all pretentious.    Her husband hugged her gently and calmed her down when she broke up without even knowing why.

She could not act on anything…   Paru tried her best to shut the so called ‘inappropriate relationship’ down and be truthful and intentional in saving her marriage again.  Her husband remained composed and gentle letting her come to her own terms in life.

Paru started feeling terrible.  Though her intentional efforts to save her marriage was going on, she was unable to stop feeling for Raj whose love gave her the spirit to live.  She started feeling suicidal and wanted to end her life.  She has two men who adore her.  Husband who is not only compassionate, caring and understanding but also tolerant to her inconsistent emotions and there is this OTHER man who is her perfect man showing her love, showering her surprises and keeping his expectations in tact not to overwhelm her.   But Paru started having trouble stopping and have no idea what to do!   It started becoming extremely painful.

One fine Monday morning, after sending her children to school and husband to office, Paru decided to meet Raj.   She called him to the Cafe Coffee Day.   After ordering her regular cappuccino for both of them, she took his hand in hers.  Squeezed it tightly with tears flowing uninterrupted.  He did not speak. 

‘Raj, you know how much I love you.  In fact, you don’t know that I love you more than myself.   I feel so happy and fulfilling when I am with you.  I feel like my life found a meaning ever since you came in my life’…. Paru paused.  ‘But I want to end this all’…She confessed squeezing his hand further.  

Raj looked deeply into her eyes.   She could not withstand his stare.  She closed her eyes tightly and holding her hands continued to speak.  ‘Raj, I know this is awful, going to be very difficult, both of us will be terribly hurt, but let’s believe that there will be life after that’.   His eyes were getting moist but did not speak.   ‘Raj, I need to open up to God and own everything I did.  I need his mercy’.

Raj interrupted her this time.  ‘Are you sure?’  he asked.  She nodded.  Raj continued. ‘Paru, I always loved you the same way I did the day we first met.   That is not going to change.  How you want me to be with you will be based on your decision.  As I still love you the same way, I will do anything that you want.  But you need to know that walking away from me, you should be walking towards a much stronger happiness, peace and something more important than this relationship.  You should not be afraid of losing me in case that cause is much stronger and stable, happier and will give you peace.  Do it.  Or else, decide to end your marriage and start afresh to be a ‘real self’.  It will shake up things but will clear lot of things in the process.  Better than being in this hide and seek relationship and still being in a marriage.  But the decision is yours!’…. He took his hands off hers.   

He stood up silently, patted on her back, tried to give her a small smile and tried to walk away when Paru caught his hand again.   When she went in front of him, first time in life, she saw a deep pain and tears in his eyes.   He tried to act bold.  Raj tried to joke and said that he will surely fall in love once again.    6 years after marriage, he lost his wife and son to a road accident and Paru happened in his life almost 5 years after that tragedy shook his life.   She knew it is not going to be easy for him.   Probably he will stop trusting any other woman and will be afraid to even fall in love again.

‘I don’t believe in friendship beyond love Paru.  So, don’t expect me to be responding to you and being a friend, being there when you need and will run to you when I need.  Be honest to your spouse, tell him what’s not working in your relationship and try to reduce the conflict, or the silence, if he was or if you are.   Take your real needs into the marriage and seek professional help if both of you need to hear honestly to each other and reconcile.  Good luck dear’.  -  Raj kept his parting words longer, sensible and with utmost honesty. 

Paru realized that she must learn to cope up with the loss of her relationship with Raj or else will be repeating itself and contributing to more bigger problems.   Already she has caused bigger wounds to the marriage that could have impacted more than she could imagine.  She decided to confine in her husband Siva and tell him truthfully how much hurt and loneliness she was feeling in life before she ended up in her relationship with Raj.   Siva basically being a composed person did listen to her attentively.  It is amazing how people can drop their walls when they feel heard. 

Paru hugged her husband whole heartedly that night, probably first time after many years.  She cuddled into his arms feeling the comfort which she missed all these years.  She decided to ask her self deeply and stop deceiving herself and others.   In mid of the deception, she did tell so many lies that she doesn’t even know how to get back to the truth.  The only truth is that she is now ready to change.  Accept things positively.  The beginning of honesty with others is to first being honest to oneself.

The next morning, she woke up to the bed-coffee that Siva made for her.  The mystery of God’s very real and inexhaustible love seems to be taking onto her.  She is not superstitious or a religious fanatic.   The words from the book ‘The inner voice of love’ written by Henri Nouwen seems to be hitting her head.   The last night’s revelations to Siva while lying in his arms was not easy but chased away her panic about the life ahead with him.   He did not preach her, correct her or console her.  All he did was to give a small kiss on her forehead reassuring that things will be fine…and this too shall pass. 

Three souls, different emotions, difficult phases of love, biological urges, societal pressures, above all, staying humble and repenting through the backlash helped.  Siva understood that his smallest of neglect of his wife due to professional pressure will make her get lonely and he must be more expressive in his love.  Defending his actions, blaming Paru will only fuel new anger and give for permanent break up between them. 

Paru realized that unless she decides firmly on what she wants, she will be struggling between search for happiness and the factors of guilt of cheating on her spouse.   Raj realized that searching for love, all over again is not an issue, but being in a relationship with a woman who is in marriage and still not sure of what she wants is not only a curse to him but to all around.   Had her husband being a cruel person, unbearable spouse and she wants a new life altogether, there is a point in his continuing his relationship with her till they get into a legal bonding.  But if he is not certain that it will happen, there is no point in hanging on to a relationship that is fragile – be it in love, legal tangles or emotional outbursts.

End of the story -   Doing what really makes you happy in life is the only way out of all the tangles surrounding it.  As yourself in silence – you will find the answers to all tangles around!



Wednesday, August 7, 2019

An year after you...... will be holding onto you....today and forever...Amma!


Thinking of you!
Today and forever
Missing your loud voice around
The discipline, the care, the concern

Every time I fell down
You stood there, 
pushing me to raise again

Since you have gone
I close my eyes and 
think of what you would say
for things that I am not sure

Morning coffees are not same again
No one can match your cooking 
Be it your kesari or simple rasam
wish I wait for one other meal with you

You were a tough task master
but I guess that really worked wonders
You were strong battling asthma
and all the evils in and out as well

Upkeeping your house like you used to do
doing what socially is right as you did
managing people and finances with ease
contentment with what you had always
none of the above is easy for me today




Sunday, July 21, 2019

Public Dialogue of Women's Reservation Bill @Chennai on 21 Jul 2019 - 5 MPs participated

What is Women's Reservation Bill?  

The Women's Reservation Bill or The Constitution (108th Amendment) Bill, 2008, is a pending bill in the Parliament of India which propose to amend the Constitution of India to reserve 33% of all seats in the Lower house of Parliament of India, the Lok Sabha, and in all state legislative assemblies for women. The seats were proposed to be reserved in rotation and would have been determined by draw of lots in such a way that a seat would be reserved only once in three consecutive general elections.

The Rajya Sabha passed the bill on 9 March 2010.  However, the Lok Sabha never voted on the bill. The bill is still pending as it never went to the Lok Sabha.   In 1993, a constitutional amendment was passed in India that called for a random one third of village council leader, or pradhan, positions in gram panchayat to be reserved for women.

There is a long-term plan to extend this reservation to parliament and legislative assemblies.Its opponents consider this preferential treatment of women in India as discrimination against them in admissions to schools, colleges, and universities.


Why is it not presented in the floor of Parliament by Governments at Power so far.?    A Public Dailogue on the Womens Reservation Bill in Chennai on 21 Jul 2019

“You can tell the condition of the nation by looking at the status of women.” - Jawaharlal Nehru

“Na Stree Swathantryam Arhati”  - Manusmriti,   Meaning - Woman is undeserving for independence.This phrase reflects our whole attitude  towards women in our country.   Those following Manusmriti has been consistently opposing the WRB.

Ms.Kanimozhi Karunanidhi, honourable Member of Parliament in her keynote address mentioned that this is the only bill pending from passing for the longest period in the parliament.   Sharing of Power is always a question as Power represent authority to take decisions and make changes which will not be beneficial to men.  Seat sharing does have physical challenges even during the UPA government period.  Manifestos of NDA always included the WRB, however, not a single time it was passed in any session of Parliament and it is sad that this is not in agenda of the current session of the Parliament as well.   

There is no response to voices of the people.  Today with 78 women MP’s, it is only 14% in Parliament.   The need for this Women’s Reservation Bill as 108th amendment to the Constitution will give assured seats/ party tickets for even contesting by the women.    Every law is a problem to someone, and women need to decide on what they want and fight for it.    With the WRB kind of legislations in place, women will be able to voice out for stricter laws against crimes on women like Rape etc. 

"The Bill that every party promises and none pass,"
as DMK MP Kanimozhi eloquently said,
was my power packed Saturday at Loyola college.
VCK MP Ravikumar's words were memorable, Dalits & women have similar standing - lesser among equals by birth, and underserved in political power.
And as Thamizhachi rightly said, political power is a woman's right, not ask.
Dr Ranjana Kumari pointed out that when we say a Bill is tabled there is usually no actual document presented. This one, strangely enough, was presented as a document and torn. And again, and again! Until the ensuing ruckus stalled the bill for 9 years now.
2 MPs from the DMK, Kanimozhi & Sumathy (ThamizhachI), VCK MP Ravikumar and INC MP Dr Jayakumar accepted our demand to raise the #WomensReservationBill in this first session of Parliament.
The ball moves, nay inches towards the goal post ...
Chennai, July 20th 2019.   (Written by Tara Krishnaswamy of Politcal Shakthi)


Merits of Women's Reservation Bill
1.      It will increase the number of women members in Parliament and state assemblies.
2.      Issue related to the women will get much more priority in the Parliament and can be resolved easily.
3.      The abusive and bad atmosphere of the Parliament and state assemblies can become better.
4.      Gender Equality in parliament leading to women empowerment
5.      Provide women with much needed opportunity to come out and participate in political activities
6.      Give women a chance to play an active role in the governance of the country- giving women of India a level playing field in politics and raise their status adn efficiency in the same
7.      Everyone will respect women in our country. Management of Parliament will be better because of the managerial skills of women.
8.      Equal access to participate in social and political activities. Decision making in economic life and politics of the nation.
9.      It will eliminate the gender discrimination in the Parliament.
10.  Rapid improvement in the lifestyle of women.
11.  Full advancement to women in legislation.
12.  Easier to access the democratic functioning for women.
13.  Women in the Parliament will act as a complement to men.






Wednesday, July 10, 2019

Mindful Consumption Conclave from EWIT @ 10 Jul 2019 Held at Madras Boat Club


Mindful Consumption Conclave curated by EWIT held on 10 Jul 2019 at Madras Boat Club:

Mindful Consumption of Resources

Today, we are in the era, where our Natural Resources are fast depleting and the world is grappling with the climate change and its consequences.  The 2030 Agenda for Sustainable Development, adopted by all United Nations Member States in 2015, provides a shared blueprint for peace and prosperity for people and the planet, now and into the future.

At its heart are the 17 Sustainable Development Goals (SDGs), which are an urgent call for action by all countries - developed and developing - in a global partnership. SDG 12 speaks about “Ensuring sustainable consumption and production patterns”

WHY, HOW and WHEN need to be brainstormed, to create an effective and implementable framework on sustainable consumption, stop waste levels along production and supply chains and create an environmentally sound management of these resources.   

EWIT brought in experts to talk on this this most important SUSTAINABLE DEVELOPMENT GOAL in par with the United National SDGs

Mindful Digital Consumption

In addition, we also covered mindful digital consumption. The deep penetration of social digital in our lives, everything under the surveillance of camera phones and videos, excessive usage of digital resources and creating of e-waste that would soon become a curse to the world.  How can we ensure a balanced Digital Consumption approach that will protect our generations from an excessive usage of the digital content? 

Our panel spoke on:

1.      Framework on sustainable consumption of natural resources
2.      Mindful Digital Consumption
 Speakers

1.      Mr. Arun Krishnamurthy, Founder, EFI
2.      Dr. Vidya Durai, Director, BNY Mellon
3.      Mr. Santhosh T, Vels University
4.      Mr. Manikandan T, Director for Digital Apps and Games Services, Amazon
Moderator:
Mr. Vijay Anand, Founder CEO, The Startup Centre





The evening started with Nirmala Gopalakrishnan, President of EWIT welcoming the Gathering and giving a brief introduction on EWIT and its vision and work.    Treasurer and Program curator Umasree Raghunath gave a briefing on the need for this Environment based Conclave on Mindful consumption and introduced the eminent Panel for the evening. 

Moderator Vijay Anand set the stage with starting the discussion on the Conscious Consumption Changes needed in environmental framework

Environmental Crusader Arun Krishnamurthy – Founder of EFI explained on the need to understand the 2 terms - Anthropocene and legion.    Which basically talks about the human impact on nature and the chemical waste generated

The Anthropocene is a proposed epoch dating from the commencement of significant human impact on Earth's geology and ecosystems, including, but not limited to, anthropogenic climate change.  (Meaning from internet)

Arun emphasised on the need to understand social research statistics and fact that people are consuming more than what cannot degrade.  Awareness to reduce waste must begin within the local communities. 

Student Representative Santhosh gave an emotional but factual detail from the student perspective.  How the society is today behind the star rating process and aggregate the quality of work.     He said that smart phones are the most poisonous toys we are giving our children today.   It does not end there.  The availability of data and phones for every child not only results in excessive data consumption but also create e-waste that this Earth cannot handle.  He expressed deep anguish on the waste of time and lack of human interaction.  Every smile, tear and fear are now expressed only in emojis than in human expressions.  The digitalization despite having visual teaching aids etc is constraining people from having real time experience.  

He revealed the research details that 14 Million tonnes of e-waste generated in 2018 out of which 50% are personal devices like phones and computers and only 20% of this is properly recycled.     Unfortunately, India is in the 5th place in e-waster producers in the world.   By 2020, these numbers will be alarmingly increase filling up our land, space and sea.    He explained how the inactive satellites and expired vehicles are left behind in space with no technology to get back from space.   All this will have considerable impact in environment.  1.5% only is equipped today to manage e-waste.  Which is a very alarming statistic.

Manikandan T, Director from Amazon who became the key speaker having to answer consumer-based audience expressive various viewpoints, he managed it extremely well, composed and keep up to the values of being a responsible consumer and a strong corporate leader.    He suggested 3 Key Ways to address this:

1.      Drive awareness on Reducing Waste
2.      Moderation of Policies - like electricity bills based on consumption slabs
He explained how every non-living thing will become living thing with artificial intelligence playing its role soon.   Everything will become intelligent
3.      Drive Innovation to simplify Human life and address burning issues. 

Academician and Director of BNY Mellon Technology, Dr. Vidya Durai emphasised the need for Corporate being houses that drive responsible businesses.    She cited examples of how they adopted 3 villages after 2015 Floods and reconverted the village which used to be called as Vellam Konda agaram even today from inundation and making the water bodies manage excessive water after rains.  Creating community kitchens and water rejuvenation where the corporate worked with SMEs who have expert knowledge on managing the eco system.

She explained the need for collaboration and synergy between all entities, NGOs like EFI, Corporates and Government authorities.    She also highlighted how the 2% CSR funding is making a change in the way the Corporates are responding towards social responsibility.

Moderator moved the discussion on the Plastic Ban.    Vidya went on her strong views on the need for Comprehensive efforts to take this plastic ban to real effect.   Synergy between Government, NGOs and Corporates along with the citizens being responsible is the key to success.  Even then achieving 100% is a distant dream.  If we don’t ban packaging of chips like LAYS in plastic covers and our groceries still coming in plastic packets and milk supplied in plastic covers.      Abundance is a curse than Scarcity.

Arun explained how this policy on Plastic ban was designed by experts after months of research and study, and to please everyone involved and the list of what is included and what is not. and to keep up with the standards of the Global Political Framework on Environment required.  And there is a dire need to stick to the environment norms too and Government set up to be made in the optimal resource areas.   The key is the consumption consumer choices that are made.  Human beings to think beyond the business and abide by the cultural and value systems that guide our consumer behaviours.  

We need to localize cultural changes -   go back to roots of using mango leaves and banana trees torans instead of balloons and plastic flowers.   Use Palm tree products and improve composite bins in the communities.   We are so used to blaming the system and others instead of making the changes from ourselves.   There is no social divide of rich/poor, educated/illiterate, male/female, religion, caste, creed, the responsibility of mindful consumption lies with everyone.   WE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR DAMAGES HERE and NO ONE ELSE

Vidya informed on the work done by PIST (Association of IITian) that work towards responsible environment behaviours.     Arun informed on the Himalayan task of work done by EFI currently where they must clear 64 water bodies before 10 Oct.

Arun called out for ‘TREAT YOUR BODY and PLANET THE SAME WAY’.   He explained the need to have the focus on 3 Key Areas
·       WASTE
·       WATER
·       WILDLIFE
He said that bodies like EWIT can organizing ‘Bird Watching’, ‘experimentation with waste’ – like collecting samples of the waste in the bottle and keeping it in the table near the TVs.   He explained how these experiments worked wonders in schools like APL Global in creating environment awareness.   The small things like throwing waste only in the bins in the schools.

As a final note, Mani explained the need for three things….
1.      Make Environmentally Friendly consumer behaviour part of life- Make Habitual Life
2.      Make Punishments stronger to create fear of doing wrong
3.      Inculcate behavioural changes that need to be brought in only by creating awareness

Vidya mentioned on the need to classification of our digital consumption under 5 headings:
Classify on what we do:
1.      Infotoxication
2.      Consumption
3.      Interaction – Limited
4.      Participation Levels
5.      Education
These will result in Actualization of creating self-esteem, cognizant of where we are, what we are and inculcate values in our present and future generations

Human behaviour on Planet can be classified into 1:9: 90 as per Arun.  Which means
1% thinks on its own
9% process the information available
90% are innocent followers

There is need to create a happy mindsets as happy minds explores and evolves.  This will help in creating experiences that are excessive or obsessive consumption behaviours.  
The final tag line with which this conclave ended was

Time to SAVE YOURSELF.  ……Planet Saves It selves. 

The conclave ended with thanking the Panel and Vote of Thanks by Vice President of EWIT- Bhanurekha Condur.    EWIT members were happy to have curated this event that had a combination of technology and the need of the hour to have mindfulness in our consumption behaviours.   The main reason why EWIT took this up is that IT/ITES sector is the largest sector utilizing and excessive usage of the available resources today and this awareness and insights was very important.  

-           Written by Umasree Raghunath.